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Charlotte's avatar

Thank you for this clear invitation tonight live in this world as my real and authentic self. My holding back, bending to society’s expectations, and questioning my worth serves no one. I have heard the call before and denied it.

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Darlene's avatar

Excellent. A lot to chew on here.

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Katherine's avatar

Yep all out of fucka

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Lisa.marie's avatar

Saying I am better than this.

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Christine's avatar

I have been called difficult and harsh at my workplace. At 63 and finally looking down the road to retirement in the not too distant future, I no longer care what people think. I spell it out. I explain why they are wrong and why I am right. If they prove that I am incorrect, I will accept correction gracefully. I am just so over this whole thing of being polite and politically correct. Nine out of 10 of my coworkers are younger than I am. They don’t know Jack shit.

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CozzyCorner🪔's avatar

😁☕️ I stopped walking on egg shells lately. I am over it. I get straight to the point when someone vomitus exitus their evil and their mind games.

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Marfro70's avatar

I’ve been speaking my mind for a long time. People get offended, people don’t want to talk to me, but at least Im honest about the truth and im not going to stop. If they don’t like what I say, maybe they should think about it and they’d see that they should be doing the same

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Linda Blatnik's avatar

I had the great nonfuckening awhile ago.

I was overwhelmed by it and started doing what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. I felt power with my vulnerability and stopped apologizing for the things I have done that are not acceptable to many. But most of all, even when alone, I BACK MYSELF.

Thanks for this great article! Women need to know this, because the time is here when we will be taking over.

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Rob Wiest's avatar

Great read. Although certainly not a gender-specific phenomenon.

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Sandra Hawkinson's avatar

Great piece. As a neurodivergent, I have never believed in faking it and I have always spoke my mind. You are 100% correct a lot of people don’t like it when you refuse to play be their unwritten rules. A lot of people like the authenticity, I just chose those people as my tribe. I spend a lot of time telling women, and men, they don’t have to play the game. The ones that catch on, are happier for it.

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l o's avatar

Most excellent article! Thank you for the share. My bucket o Fs is def empty.

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JCL's avatar

Went through the whole thing. In my youth I always shrunk from criticism. No more.

A year ago, I was a subject matter expert in a specific role. My young office director was a from the school “Fake It Till You Make It”. Worked with this guy for 20 years. He decided in one meeting to assume my role and said things that were not correct. I knew federal regulations and federal employees in the meeting should have known the truth but I did a “teaching moment” to correct the idiot.

I was an older employee and felt like there was no respect for my work. I finally decided to take my retirement, pension, and leave. Panic was the reaction to my decision. They spent six months trying to find a replacement before I left.

It was the best decision I ever made. I call out BS and don’t tolerate crap from anyone in my new “no boss” zone.🤣

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Adge Marz Lindsey's avatar

I flippin love this! Well done. And I laughed out loud at the idea of my brain “Marie condo-ing” itself. 🤣🤣🤣so good. So good.

The great unfuckening. . .

And maybe one day auto correct will stop making that word almost impossible to type. Haha!

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Edie's avatar

Favorite article of all time!

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Jeanette Martin's avatar

Oh yeah, this.

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l o's avatar

Completely out…

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