🎙️Live: Join Ellen Scherr and Colette Jane Fehr for a Marriage Conversation We're Not Supposed to Have

Tuesday, February 3rd, at 7:30 pm EST — An honest, raw conversation about midlife, marriage, and the moment women stop pretending.

People think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We’re afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next.

Avoidant behavior—the need to “keep the peace” rather than dealing with conflict head on—isn’t our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially “quiet quit” our relationships.

We can make another choice. In The Cost of Quiet, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behavior and how to overcome it. Colette gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. The ultimate goal: a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard—because a good relationship is worth fighting for.

This finally put words to something so many of us feel in our marriages.

But what happens in midlife when you stop smoothing over the arguments, stop apologizing for wanting more, stop pretending the relationship is fine when it’s not, and your truth gets louder than your need to keep the peace?

Not won’t pretend. Can’t pretend.

Your brain, your body, and your capacity for swallowing your feelings reach max capacity, and suddenly, you’re not operating on what a good wife should do… you’re operating on what you actually need.

So Collette and I decided it was time to have this conversation. Together. The real one. Unfiltered and unapologetic.

🎙️ JOIN US, 2/3 @ 7:30pm EST 🎙️

Grab your wine. Or whatever works.

Show up in your comfy clothes with the truth you’ve been sitting on. Bring your sense of humor too. You’re going to need it.

This conversation is going to get real. And messy. And probably hit you in places you didn’t expect.

You don’t want to miss this one.

This session will be hosted on Riverside, an online recording studio. There’s no software to download, just click the link below.

https://riverside.com/studio/ellen-scherrs-studio?t=68fd9c7a97bce14cc81a

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