Midlife Shift, this is exactly it. That loop is exhausting because it pretends to be useful, but it never actually moves anything forward. We have lived inside that space for years, especially after losing what we thought was our future. You go over the same conversations, the same decisions, wondering if one small change could have altered everything. But it never brings peace, only more noise. The only moments that helped were the ones when we stepped away from the thinking and did something simple instead, like walking by the sea or driving somewhere new in Bennie. Movement quietens the loop in a way thinking never can. Thank you for putting words to something so many of us live with but rarely name. 🌹
I get stuck here. I think, I’m “thinking things through”, but I’m just staying in my comfort zone. There is no comfort in change. I wish there was. At best, I can get a good cheerleader and fellow traveler. Thank you! ❤️
This was a helpful reminder. I'm in the dark phase of integration right now and I have been doing small interruption steps to get myself out of the panic rumination phase. You broke down why that worked as well as it has. So for those of you who are in this heavy, hard place, finding any small way to interrupt what you're doing does work.
Oh, your clarification on what rumination is was helpful! I instantly identified a topic I replay that feels like a broken record. Now, I feel, that I'll be able to identify more quickly. Something that really helps me get out of my head is my art practice. A paintbrush, a pencil creates for me a clean slate in my mind and transports me to a peaceful place. Thank you for sending forth the light!
Thank you for breaking down the rumination process in a way that's easy to understand, and for confirming what I stumbled on a few years ago, that getting out of my head and into my body would stop it in its tracks. My way of doing that is to hop on my bike and take off on a ride. It works every single time.
Midlife Shift, this is exactly it. That loop is exhausting because it pretends to be useful, but it never actually moves anything forward. We have lived inside that space for years, especially after losing what we thought was our future. You go over the same conversations, the same decisions, wondering if one small change could have altered everything. But it never brings peace, only more noise. The only moments that helped were the ones when we stepped away from the thinking and did something simple instead, like walking by the sea or driving somewhere new in Bennie. Movement quietens the loop in a way thinking never can. Thank you for putting words to something so many of us live with but rarely name. 🌹
I enjoyed reading your post, Ms. Scherr. Working on my moral values helped me to overcome the feelings of guilt that brought rumination in its wake.
I get stuck here. I think, I’m “thinking things through”, but I’m just staying in my comfort zone. There is no comfort in change. I wish there was. At best, I can get a good cheerleader and fellow traveler. Thank you! ❤️
Recently started using ACT to stop ruminating. I'm having the thought that..." Works well. Much better than beating myself up for ruminating.
This was a helpful reminder. I'm in the dark phase of integration right now and I have been doing small interruption steps to get myself out of the panic rumination phase. You broke down why that worked as well as it has. So for those of you who are in this heavy, hard place, finding any small way to interrupt what you're doing does work.
Oh, your clarification on what rumination is was helpful! I instantly identified a topic I replay that feels like a broken record. Now, I feel, that I'll be able to identify more quickly. Something that really helps me get out of my head is my art practice. A paintbrush, a pencil creates for me a clean slate in my mind and transports me to a peaceful place. Thank you for sending forth the light!
Thank you for breaking down the rumination process in a way that's easy to understand, and for confirming what I stumbled on a few years ago, that getting out of my head and into my body would stop it in its tracks. My way of doing that is to hop on my bike and take off on a ride. It works every single time.