Thank you for your “spot on” tips. I’m trying to find my balance after my husband died. Tuning out the “noise” and unhelpful advice from friends has been a challenge but I’m slowly finding surer footing.
Doing the boring stuff is helping me create a new routine and life. Amazing how doing the simple stuff - hydrate, go to bed early, eat healthy, get daily exercise - really does make a difference so that I can tackle more difficult tasks or emotionally get through a day in a better mindset.
Thank you for sharing your insights, Ellen. I appreciate you and your work!
I started “cleansing” a month ago-got real about social media (read that, got off Facebook, it was making me puke) quietly wrote friends off, not in a grand way but in a way that was preserving me, started doing my art and music and writing in a big way, and sat in the quiet still of morning in gratitude and contemplation. I feel more at peace than I ever have in the last 10 years. 💜
Wow. How many of you paused for thought as all of these words settled in? It is empowering, isn’t it, to know how connected we all are. And to realize how strong and capable we are! Never stop believing. Believing in self.
Thank you Ellen, your words are absolutely what I need to hear right now. I’m 64 yo heading to Medicare and social security. At 52 I left my home, husband and adult children to begin a new relationship and it has been one long grief process. While I am happy where I am right now I still feel the “ what is my purpose now, why am I here?” Your words are helping me get there.
Such good advice, Ellen. Thank you for laying it all out for us in a way that rings so clear and true. While life isn't a rough draft, it is something we continually get to edit. And these are some great reminders of how to do just that!
Thank you so much for writing this. Yet again you’ve named so many of the things I’ve been going through in the last 5 years especially. Your phrase of ‘energy is currency, spend it like your broke’ is the best and funniest description ever for being mindful of what and who we choose to spend our energy on. It will stay with me forever more 😂 Thank you 🙏🏼❤️
I feel like I’ve naturally started to embrace or let go of most of these over the past 2-5 years. I’ve stopped “striving “ to impress. It is so freeing- and a good reminder that most people aren’t spending any energy worrying about you - they are too busy worrying about themselves. I mean this in the performative way. People in your life who truly care and worry about you are your very small circle. Spend your precious energy with them.
I love this next chapter of life even when it seems a bit overwhelming at times. And when the older body causes problems. 😫
I think I stress myself out so much sometimes b/c I think I need to know exactly how my plan is going to roll out and even today I had a moment where I asked myself “what are you doing?”
I stopped myself in my track immediately and said I to myself I am doing what I want to fucking do and that is to become the greatest version of me while I help others along the way so they can too!
It made me smile greatly and realize that I have come so far in the last 7 months.
I’m so excited for what’s to come. Even though my “plan” isn’t mapped out.
Thanks Ellen. This transformation has recently landed in my lap a couple of months ago… I’m still processing it. What is abundantly clear is that the path I have been on for most of my life is leading me nowhere and exhausting the hell out of me. I have recently started breaking rule 4 and 8. I’m just done, like somebody flipped a switch. It’s liberating and terrifying all at the same time. I want to thank you for your work and your writing. It has helped me so much, more than I have words to express. Thanks a million also for the email with the e-book daily exercises. I started this morning and it really did help me manage the day. I have been a high school science teacher for 41 years and a month ago, I just realized I can’t do this anymore.. trying to get to the end of the school year and then I am done. I don’t know what is next for me at 64 but I am willing to take the risk now to find out, largely due to your work. Again, thank you.
Yep! I am deep into this mid life thing!! And I so understand my mum way better!!! And I am working on my second book now because I'm done hiding away and waiting for the perfect moment to say what's really in my head, heart and gut!!
Yes.
Thank you for your “spot on” tips. I’m trying to find my balance after my husband died. Tuning out the “noise” and unhelpful advice from friends has been a challenge but I’m slowly finding surer footing.
Doing the boring stuff is helping me create a new routine and life. Amazing how doing the simple stuff - hydrate, go to bed early, eat healthy, get daily exercise - really does make a difference so that I can tackle more difficult tasks or emotionally get through a day in a better mindset.
Thank you for sharing your insights, Ellen. I appreciate you and your work!
I loved every moment of reading this. Thank you.
I started “cleansing” a month ago-got real about social media (read that, got off Facebook, it was making me puke) quietly wrote friends off, not in a grand way but in a way that was preserving me, started doing my art and music and writing in a big way, and sat in the quiet still of morning in gratitude and contemplation. I feel more at peace than I ever have in the last 10 years. 💜
I am really enjoying your posts. Thank you so much for putting this in everyday language that we women can relate to and take to heart.
Wow. How many of you paused for thought as all of these words settled in? It is empowering, isn’t it, to know how connected we all are. And to realize how strong and capable we are! Never stop believing. Believing in self.
Thanks so much for the words!
Thank you Ellen, your words are absolutely what I need to hear right now. I’m 64 yo heading to Medicare and social security. At 52 I left my home, husband and adult children to begin a new relationship and it has been one long grief process. While I am happy where I am right now I still feel the “ what is my purpose now, why am I here?” Your words are helping me get there.
Such good advice, Ellen. Thank you for laying it all out for us in a way that rings so clear and true. While life isn't a rough draft, it is something we continually get to edit. And these are some great reminders of how to do just that!
Thank you so much for writing this. Yet again you’ve named so many of the things I’ve been going through in the last 5 years especially. Your phrase of ‘energy is currency, spend it like your broke’ is the best and funniest description ever for being mindful of what and who we choose to spend our energy on. It will stay with me forever more 😂 Thank you 🙏🏼❤️
I feel like I’ve naturally started to embrace or let go of most of these over the past 2-5 years. I’ve stopped “striving “ to impress. It is so freeing- and a good reminder that most people aren’t spending any energy worrying about you - they are too busy worrying about themselves. I mean this in the performative way. People in your life who truly care and worry about you are your very small circle. Spend your precious energy with them.
I love this next chapter of life even when it seems a bit overwhelming at times. And when the older body causes problems. 😫
Just hit it! Grief 😔
Thank you! ☺️
Holy shit #7 made my day Ellen 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
#7 is awesome Ellen.
I think I stress myself out so much sometimes b/c I think I need to know exactly how my plan is going to roll out and even today I had a moment where I asked myself “what are you doing?”
I stopped myself in my track immediately and said I to myself I am doing what I want to fucking do and that is to become the greatest version of me while I help others along the way so they can too!
It made me smile greatly and realize that I have come so far in the last 7 months.
I’m so excited for what’s to come. Even though my “plan” isn’t mapped out.
Thank you so much for this write up 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Thanks Ellen. This transformation has recently landed in my lap a couple of months ago… I’m still processing it. What is abundantly clear is that the path I have been on for most of my life is leading me nowhere and exhausting the hell out of me. I have recently started breaking rule 4 and 8. I’m just done, like somebody flipped a switch. It’s liberating and terrifying all at the same time. I want to thank you for your work and your writing. It has helped me so much, more than I have words to express. Thanks a million also for the email with the e-book daily exercises. I started this morning and it really did help me manage the day. I have been a high school science teacher for 41 years and a month ago, I just realized I can’t do this anymore.. trying to get to the end of the school year and then I am done. I don’t know what is next for me at 64 but I am willing to take the risk now to find out, largely due to your work. Again, thank you.
Nancy, thank you for this touching note and kind words. I'm here for you.
Love this!
Yep! I am deep into this mid life thing!! And I so understand my mum way better!!! And I am working on my second book now because I'm done hiding away and waiting for the perfect moment to say what's really in my head, heart and gut!!