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Heather Moday's avatar

I’m was so happy to read this. Ever since I quit my job at 43 to start my own integrative medical practice my life has been a roller coaster. I hated my previous stable job at a medical practice run my misogynist men but wow - I threw myself into a cyclone that I was not prepared for. It was great for a few years, but the stress of it all took its toll. I also realized I hate managing people. I also realized I loved research, writing and speaking more than being a doctor. That’s a 500,000 dollar mistake! It took the pandemic, an out of state move and menopause the finally force me to give it up. Not to admit defeat but to finally decide I’m done. Financially it’s been a struggle, but at 56 I am once again starting over but this time with authenticity and no fucks given. It’s scary to look around and realize that there is no designated path to follow. You have to discard who you thought you were. But I am finally allowing myself to be who I am right now.

Marilyn Perona's avatar

Congratulations, Ellen, for welcoming this new life and inviting us to join you on your great adventure! I love your message that we're not here to figure it all out. Ahhh, I can relax now! And get excited, too, about what is yet to come! (I have 71 calendar years and am also in a new life. It's more expansive, more tender, and more beautiful.)

Karen Salmansohn's avatar

Oh, Elllen - I love this so much... and not just because I got a little cameo as your "Karen" in your Act 3! :) Everything you’re saying is the antidote to that “coast into irrelevance” script so many of us were handed. Uncertainty is not a flaw, it’s proof you’re still alive in the best sense. Thank you for showing ** by inspiring example ** that there’s no sell-by date on curiosity or reinvention. Here’s to many more edits, pivots, and deliciously unfinished chapters!!

Marcie's avatar

Love this! Never want to stop growing! Thx for your great insight 👍

Nancy Bart's avatar

I love this post. You are right, it is like my permission to be free and soar instead of being grounded in a life of mediocrity. I don’t have to listen to what “they” say or think. I am my own person and I have a right (no damn it), the absolute need to be me. Everyone else can either fly with me or get left behind. So if you need to reach me, from now on look up to the sky. You will find me spreading my wings and finding who I was meant to be, in my heart.

Ellen Scherr's avatar

Keep the wings open and continue to fly!