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Annelise Larson's avatar

I love this! I wrote about the overwhelm of goal setting recently and this provides a great alternative. I will definitely consider this going into the new year.

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Michelle's avatar

Thank you, your writing has been a lifeline for me since I found you a month or so ago.

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Nikki M Finlay, PhD's avatar

Thank you for these gentle steps to getting past those insane goals.

I have a big audacious goal, but I (for once) have a plan that involves little steps, including realigning my Substack (and reducing it a bit). I have a couple of other “I need to do this” goals, but one’s in process and we know what to do. The other is a bit muddled, but I think I can get there.

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Susan G's avatar

I love the toddler description 😂 that is so on target!!!

Yeah, I’m afraid I filed for divorce and figured out the rest later. But in my defense I had drawn the line 24 years before and he didn’t just cross it, he danced a damn conga over it. 😤 7 days later he got papers and 31 days later I was divorced. That was when I was 45 and at 62 I can confidently say ‘I did the right thing’ shoulda actually done it sooner 😒 BUT, do I now have PTSD & panic attacks? the answer is yes 🙄 but I’m still better off.

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Allie Duke's avatar

Thank you for this. It’s good to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Approaching goals and change from a perspective of respecting the nervous system is so important. I appreciate the mental shift.

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Barbara Shirvis's avatar

Perfect timing and just what I needed to hear… I KNOW these things but reading your clear and compassionate words makes me sigh with relief. The perfect balm to start the day, month, and year. Thank you!

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