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Frank's avatar

After 50 years of man-hating feminism, large numbers of men have walked away from women, dating and marriage,

The silver lining is that there are a growing number of women that reject feminism, and respect and value men. Those are the only women men want to be near. Feminists will grow old alone.

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Kate Webb's avatar

Thank you for this article, Ellen! I've enjoyed being a subscriber of your newsletter very much. Your words and ideas are part of a powerful reprogramming process for me--and I need to hear these things over and over again!

Women Who Run With the Wolves is one of my favorite books! I write book reviews, and I'm in the process moving my newsletter over to Substack. But, for anyone interested, I've already moved the article I wrote on this book over: https://katewebbwrites.substack.com/p/issue-6-women-who-run-with-the-wolves?r=2u2086

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The Jubili's avatar

This feels deeply true.

What we call “wild” often isn’t rebellion — it’s regulation returning.

Midlife doesn’t make women untamed out of nowhere. It removes the tolerance for self-betrayal. The apologies, the hedging, the softening — those were adaptive strategies. And at some point, the body simply won’t carry them anymore.

What I appreciate here is the reframe: wildness as discernment. Instinct as intelligence. Not reckless, but rooted. Not louder, but truer.

That restlessness isn’t a call to blow everything up.

It’s a signal that something essential is asking to be restored.

And once you hear it, it’s very hard to unhear.

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Sharon Levine's avatar

The book is one of the few that changed my life. Yes. It’s on my bookshelf!

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Heidi Field's avatar

I love this. I am running and writing my way out of the rage that is inside.

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J. M. Andersson's avatar

So much resonate about what you’ve just shared! ✨ It’s interesting how the wolf keeps reappearing for me right now… It started with me seeing myself lying next to a dead (!) wolf in a vision during a (therapeutic) psychedelic experience… And I’ve also envisioned covering myself and my children with wolf fur in bed at night… I think it’s something calling me back home to truth and ancient wisdom. Home to my Nordic heritage and roots… To myself. And yes — to my wild woman. 🐺

I’ve been surrounded by death in the past months. Relationships ending. My grandpa passing. Ego deaths… Everything is asking me to let go — of an old version of self. I guess it’s time! 🕯️

Oh, and I just ordered the book. Finally. Thank you! 🙏🏻✨

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Unpolished Mirror with Angela's avatar

I returned to the wild! It has calmed my nervous system, I am spending time with people who want to spend time with. Funny how I have removed myself and how mad it has made the people it affected the most.

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Zee's avatar

Yes 🙌🏽

Already here

♥️

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Linda VSY's avatar

Estes is wonderful! Another author that covers similar ground is Sharon Blackie is https://substack.com/@sharonblackie. I just finished her excellent book, Wise Women.

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Brianna R Wasson's avatar

This resonates so deeply. Learning to not make myself small anymore, to find my voice, to be the true wild that I was always meant to be is so beautifully exciting and scary and all the things. Thank you, again, for your words.

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Deborah Federico's avatar

Always a pleasure! Thank you for waking me up!

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Michelle E. Lange's avatar

My new novel, Pause…and Effect, has menopause/midlife/reawakening into our new selves as a key theme. If you like to read fiction, Visit my Substack. The novel is posted there for free. Would love your comments.

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Anne Lawton's avatar

I read that book over 25 years ago and have a copy of it. It definitely resonated with me then…but since Covid pandemic I lost that wolf me. Your article is very timely as it reminds me of Estes message. It’s very difficult being caged.

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Lauren Taub Cohen's avatar

A big, loud YES to all of this! I love that comparison of wolves to our intrinsic wild ways, which got shaped, shamed and shushed. I used to talk from a place of I'm-sorry-for-being-a-burden. Thankfully, that pattern has shifted. And yet ... making requests and asking for I need can still be challenging. My mentor, Ann Weiser Cornell, has this brilliant saying - Every no is a yes to something else. (Not sure why that small bit is underlined. There is no link)

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Elisabeth Peterson's avatar

Yessss. This landed straight in my body.

Midlife as the moment our nervous systems refuse to keep performing? Our “wildness” not as recklessness, but as truth-telling, boundary-knowing, space-taking wisdom?

That’s not a crisis—that’s initiation.

I’m listening. And yes… I’m coming.

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